For today's article, we're going to rely on the book "Don't Tell Me Again: 13 Everyday Phrases to Understand Gender Violence," which was funded by the European Union. We highly recommend it to all women who are in the process of finding their voice and breaking down the stigmas surrounding their lives at home.
This time, we're going to focus solely on eight phrases we should stop repeating because they're empty and meaningless clichés.
“There are races for men and there are races for women”
Women can develop in any career field they choose because it's clear that both men and women have the same capabilities. Let's stop limiting our daughters. Let's let them be whatever they want: astronauts, lawyers, police officers. Let's erase from our minds the stigma that says there are careers that are too masculine.
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“Behind every great man there is a great woman”
It's a phrase that forces women to accept secondary roles within our society. We don't need to be behind anyone. Let's teach our daughters that we can be by someone's side, as long as there is admiration and mutual support.
“You should be a little more feminine.”
Let's stop adjusting the way we look to meet the cultural and social demands of our gender. Girls should be happy and comfortable. They shouldn't look like dolls or flawless all the time, because they are girls.
“Being a mother is the most beautiful thing about being a woman.”
Telling a girl this means reducing her role to a procreative one. The most wonderful thing about being a woman is being free and pursuing your dreams. Let's stop limiting our girls' potential from an early age.
“She asked for it by dressing like that.”
It's an extremely painful phrase to hear because it blames women when in reality they are victims. No context justifies the assault. This is an extremely sexist phrase that we should never say in front of our daughters.
“Women are more emotional than men”
It's another phrase that ultimately reflects the early indoctrination of children, which ultimately negatively impacts the way they relate to their emotions, so this is also a phrase we should stop saying.
“If a child treats you badly, it’s because he likes you.”
This is possibly one of the worst things we can say to our daughters because it normalizes violence from childhood. Girls have the right to be respected.
“Women don’t have to be understood, they have to be loved.”
Another disastrous phrase that conveys the impossibility of understanding female behavior as if it were something irrational. At the end of the day, affection isn't enough; we need to empower our girls so they learn to communicate and thus convey to others what they need.
Now, tell us, have you ever said any of the Eight Phrases We Should Stop Repeating to Our Girls to Empower Them?
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